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If music reflects soul, my boyfriend’s is pitiful


DEAR HARRIETTE: I can’t stand my boyfriend’s taste in music.

Harriette Cole

Music is extremely important to me, as I am a recording artist. I believe that music reflects your soul and who you truly are.

There isn’t a single song that I’ve played for him that he’s liked; he doesn’t even like the music I make. I’m not offended that he doesn’t like my music because it doesn’t tend to attract his demographic anyway, but I’m afraid this is the beginning of a deeper issue for us.

I don’t like the fact that we can’t bond over something as simple as music. Do you think this is a sign of a deeper issue?


DEAR SONGSTRESS: I remember when I met my husband and began to listen to the music that he likes. It was so different from my musical choices. Some of it I liked; some, I didn’t.

Now, nearly 30 years later, our musical tastes remain very different. Sometimes when he is listening to his favorite radio station in the car, I pop in my headphones and listen to something else. Often, we take turns listening to each other’s channels when we are driving long distances.

The point is: We figured out ways to compromise without judgment. We accept that we like different things.